With the first introduction of my book in 2012 to a group of adults, I was surprised to discover that people of all ages in the audience were interested in the content of my book and learning more. Even seniors were looking for change, new meaning and to evolve their lives to a place of purpose and meaning now that they had the time to do so in retirement. This realization caused me to shift my thinking from simply selling the book to offering this program and making it available to people of all ages.
I decided to write my book as a way to reach out to my children in a different medium as nothing I said seemed to penetrate their teenage brains. I based the content of my book on a multitude of life wisdom I wish I would have known at an earlier age as I wouldn’t have had to stumble and struggle so much. Yes, we all have to learn through life’s experience, but my struggles were more than that. With a mother who was sick her entire life and a father who was neglectful and disinterested, I raised myself from early childhood on. As I write about in my book, my brother and I were literally left alone as young children so I had no choice but to learn by default what was to become a lifelong struggle and way of living. And that struggle was learning everything the hard way without much in the way of help or parental guidance. I will tell you now that the hard way is not necessary when there are so many wonderful people willing to help with what they know. We don’t have to waste our life going after the wrong things, in the wrong way for the wrong reasons.
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I started offering this program in 2015 after years of putting it together. Then my life again started falling apart with more tragedy. I had to give to what was happening so, again, put my life on hold. My children needed me more than ever. Then in 2018 the worst happened (as I talk about on this site), and I needed time to deal with a completely new life without my son. Today my desire is that I deeply want to help others so I am offering introductions to each section of my program to anyone who wants to follow this blog.
So why is this program different than all the programs offered? For one, professionals may not have experienced life as I did first hand. And as I mentioned before, there is no substitute or insight greater than personal experience. However, the greatest thing I learned is that change, growth and creating a meaningful life happens first in the mind. After sitting in numerous meetings with people who were rehabilitating from life and substance abuse, I noticed that the great majority of time people talked about how they came to abuse life, drugs, alcohol. Even though venting and sharing is helpful, in every meeting I thought, “why don’t they talk about their future instead of their past?” “Why don’t they talk about their dreams and the life they want to live?” Remunerating over and over about the past keeps you there. Talking about your problems is not enough. So, the conclusion I came to understand is that in order for people to change, they have to deal with the main reason they started destroying their life in the first place. It all starts in the mind. You can’t heal an addict just by getting them sober. They can’t stay sober unless they deal with what caused the downfall in the first place and work it. They have to find a way to separate themselves from their past destructive thinking and walk into new thinking about life. That is when I knew that dealing with change from the mind and resolving past issues first with a whole new way of thinking and inspiration was imperative to changing their life.
We cannot change until we first attack what got us there in the first place so that kind of thinking doesn’t perpetuate.
My program offers on how to change the destructive thinking that got you there. When we live outside our passion for life, we flounder. There’s an inner unfulfilled yearning and a restlessness to go in a different direction. There is a deeper calling you ache to awaken so you can do what your soul desires. Every person has a talent and a vision to create something that touches the truth of who they are. When you are not living that, you feel something is missing that your soul still needs to find.
Living with the mindset that all things are possible starts with releasing disempowering patterns, behaviors and thoughts that hold you back. Self-empowerment is believing in yourself first…that you deserve an awesome life and finally making the decision to go after what you want. Real change starts with walking out of your old story and into a life that represents who you are inside and what you aspire to become. You can wait for all this wisdom to come to you with time; or you can tap into the ideas, knowledge and experience of people who know your suffering and know how to transform life. Had I known at a much younger age all the magic that was always available to me, my life would have been distinctly different. I offer a structured program to guide you out of comfort zones, open your mind to possibilities you never knew were there, help you to believe in yourself, and give you the tools you need to change, and the insight of how to always be able to turn to yourself for the answers. Realizing what your dreams are doesn’t have to take a lifetime to figure out. This program gives you a map and insight as to what you need to overcome, change direction and finally tap into your place of purpose.
Personal growth is about getting rid of negative thinking and creating a new life in touch with who you are and what you want to create in your life.
I have known so many remarkable, talented, educated people who have wallowed in a place of mindless routine their entire lives and given up on their dreams. Somewhere in time their dreams were crushed by their perception of life, their expectations and the trials they were given. I was one of those people. I struggled through my young adult years knowing that deeper burning to make a difference but not knowing how to do it or what it looked like. Then when adversity hit, little did I know then that my journey through lifeless routine was about to end. That’s the beauty of adversity. It is given to us to make us grow and bring about the change our soul desires.
Beautiful new life can come from the storms if we know how to transform the darkness.
For years I existed with lifeless routine wondering why I had all these magnificent dreams that lay dormant inside of me. It wasn’t until I did the inner work to overcome these obstacles that I was able to evolve beyond those walls. Therefore, my program is definitively different. I found the answer first by doing the inner work necessary to bring about the kind of clarity that escaped me for so long. I know more than most people how important these steps are
We are born to live with a sense of aliveness that is congruent with our authenticity. Life is not the same when we live outside our passions, our talents, and contributing to the greater good. When we live authentically with who we are meant to be, life flows and you feel alive. In the wrong life, we feel invisible, empty and unfulfilled. If you are an adult in your mid years, you don’t have another ten years to spend time finding yourself. And if you are a young adult, you are fortunate to have the opportunity to get it right from the beginning without years wasted in the wrong life or the wrong direction. This program will help you put it all together and you will leave with a deeper knowing of who you are, what you want, what you need to get it, and feeling alive with what resonates with you possibly for the first time in your life.
This program has to be approached with an open mind and the attitude of wanting a better chance at life. People with a closed mind of resistance and doubt will not benefit from this. However, there is no magic without the work. You have to do the work to achieve the results you desire. You get out of anything in life what you put into it. Dreams and change only happens when you do the work to make them happen.
I guarantee that you will discover insight as to how to change forever. If you don’t, it is only because you are not trying and putting forth the work you need to do to make it happen.